MUNDANE AND BORING***

By Author- Alisha Prien

It’s been a minute…

Motivation just hasn’t been there (or should I say lack of discipline), our daughter has been an arse as of late, and my partner and I are just getting by in a mundane as possible fashion. I struggle the most when things seem dull, or as most would say boring. I am use to chaos and excitement thanks to the toxic relationships of my past.  I often find myself falling into the trap of wanting something new and exciting to happen. I guess you could say I’m the more impatient and spontaneous one out of the family. I can’t bear to go through the slow boring routines of life, you know the period where it’s all about the kids, work, money, chores and things to fix around the house. I often find myself questioning if I’m living life to the fullest during this stage, “is there more to life? “

I know it sounds dramatic and even a little entitled (hideous really), but I can’t help it, and scrolling through Facebook seeing everyone on holidays, or out adventuring doesn’t make you feel any better. Tip 1- don’t scroll ever when you are feeling low in life, just don’t, you will only come off feeling even worse and wondering is the grass greener? Which, let’s be honest we all know it isn’t… how many fights happened before they took that perfect family photo on vacation? Are all those girls going out on girls’ nights, posting about how amazing they are really friends? Or are they fake and talk behind each other’s backs, you know what I mean… (I have trust issues for sure.) I know, I know, at the end of the day who really cares, the focus should be on my own backyard, these days I lose focus, probably because I’m so use to the chaos from past.

There’s being human and feeling a moment in time, and then there’s just being stupid, and I know I am just being stupid with wanting something and not doing the work to get there. Sometimes life isn’t sunshine and rainbows, sometimes its boring, sometimes the romance just isn’t there because you both have s*** to sort out, whether that be the kids, or house chores.

That’s not to say the fun, romance, holidays and adventuring will never come, it will, but there is hard work that must be done to get there. This is something I struggle with a lot, and often I have to remind myself that there is a rainbow at the end, but you have to face the storm first. (Do the hard yards, and endure the mundane phase of life)

 I think social media hasn’t helped us with this mentality of wanting more, or comparing, it gives us false hope and unrealistic expectations on what life should be. At the end of the day, we are only seeing the end result on social media, not the hard work many did to save for that holiday, or the storms they endured to get to where they are now. I know I said in a blog a while ago that “comparison is the thief of all joy” and that still reins true. When we compare or envy others, we forget what lays ahead of us, we forget to enjoy right now and embrace where we are working towards.

So, for now I will embrace this mundane and stormy phase in my life, the rainbow will come soon.